CONNECT Men

I am committed to working with CONNECT Men because it is important to move men from bystanders to allies to activists to end violence in our communities, no matter if it takes place in the home, school, workplace or on the street. — Quentin Walcott, Co-Executive Director, CONNECT

Men commit over 90 percent of the reported cases of domestic violence. Yet traditional domestic abuse programs focus on women and children – the victims of family violence – rather than the batterer. Taking a unique approach to transforming behavior, CONNECT developed a series of programs specifically for men in order to help them recognize the attitudes and behaviors that result in domestic abuse.

A cornerstone of CONNECT’s programs for male batterers is that they be held accountable for their actions. By helping them to understand the underlying reasons for domestic violence, CONNECT helps convert the batterers to allies to end male violence
against women.

CONNECT’s anti-violence initiatives for men include:

  • Monthly Men’s Roundtable: A monthly roundtable for men who provide services to men and fathers in various capacities.
  • Men@Work: Seminars and community workshops held in each borough on masculinity, male socialization and ending violence against women.
  • Hombres Dialogando: A Spanish-language program that focuses on psycho-education and capacity-building for peer educators with a focus on manhood, fatherhood, and relationships with partners.
  • Men & Women as Allies: A workplace/union initiative that trains management and employees to ally on workplace/domestic violence/bullying behavior.
  • Understanding Men who Batter & Abuse: A 12-week training program that critically examines the gender, cultural and historical belief systems that can lead to family violence. It explores how men who are marginalized in society maintain power, male privilege and entitlement within their intimate and communal relationships. Participants review prevention and intervention strategies available to men and fathers to stop abusive cycles of behavior and help build and maintain amicable relationships, where appropriate, while keeping keep women and children safe.
  • Batterer’s Intervention Training: Building upon the themes in Understanding Men Who Batter and Abuse, participants develop the in-depth knowledge and skills required to lead batters intervention groups. Co-ed facilitation is emphasized and participants learn role play and theatre techniques that model healthy relationships.
  • Working with Fathers: A bimonthly series of workshops for social service providers working with abusive fathers to help them stop abusive cycles of behavior and help build and maintain amicable relationships, where appropriate,
    while keeping women, children, and men safe.
  • Manhood Development for Young Males: A manhood development program specifically for high school and middle-school males. In this program, young men critically examine the cultural and historical belief systems and gender
    socializations that can lead to family, domestic, teen dating, gang and gender violence. They look at abuse from a race, class and gender perspective. Students explore how young men who are disenfranchised in society maintain
    power, male privilege and entitlement within their intimate and communal relationships. The root causes that lead to teen dating violence with other forms of youth and community violence are investigated. The project provides a space for these young men to have age-specific conversations about manhood, male socialization, male accountability, gender equality, healthy and unhealthy dating relationships, sibling, and peer relationships.
  • Technical Assistance and Capacity Building: Available for fatherhood, male involvement, re-entry, mentoring, and veterans programs.

For more information about CONNECT Men, contact Quentin Walcott at connectmen@connectnyc.org. Click here for additional resources.